KPDS ÜDS OKUMA PARÇASI - 38

The birth of a younger infant whilst an older child is in the toddler or preschool period is such a normal event that the proper handling of the situation should be regarded as an integral part of childcare. Put in its simplest terms, the problem is one of the older children being displaced by the new baby as the centre of attention and focus of his mother's affection. Such a displacement is inevitable, but its effects on the older child can either be helpful to his development (as when he accepts the baby with pleasure into his family circle and so takes a step forward from the egotism of babyhood) or harmful when jealousy predominates over any pleasure in having a brother or sister and the child becomes hostile to his mother and more demanding of her attention, returning to many of the practices of babyhood which he had outgrown. Thus a child or three or four may demand to sleep in his old cradle, to take milk from the bottle or breast, to be constantly carried, or may restart wetting the bed. Any or all of these symptoms may appear transiently in a child who subsequently adapts well to the new situation, but when they persist they indicate that the child is receiving less attention and affection than he needs.